Self-love is something we have been hearing about an awful lot. In theory it sounds great. Love your body, love your mind, love your flaws. Self-doubt and self-pity are awful things that nobody wants to be wallowing in for too long, but is self-love really the answer?
Don’t get us wrong - self-love is important. It’s an incredible feeling to look in the mirror and genuinely love what you see. It’s a confidence boost that’s extremely hard to rival. But 100% self-love, 100% of the time is also extremely hard to achieve. Even supermodels admit to not loving parts of their body, so where does that leave us mere mortals?
Self-acceptance, on the other hand, is far more achievable. Probably more comforting too. It’s the ability of realizing your flaws and knowing that they’re not the end of the world. It’s looking in the mirror and saying, ‘my belly could be flatter but it’s ok. It’s worth it for the chocolate.’ It’s being a party and thinking, ‘I didn’t talk to a lot of new people but that’s alright because I had a great laugh with the friends I came with anyway.’
Another big part of self-acceptance is acknowledging that you can work on yourself. It’s knowing that you could be eating healthier, exercising more, reading more, leaving your comfort zone more. It’s taking a good look at yourself and figuring out what you can do better. It’s figuring out a plan to become a better you, but in a kind way that works for you.
It’s also accepting the bad times when you aren’t feeling the greatest about yourself. That’s part of being human. But when you accept yourself, it’s easier to pick yourself up and look at the positives. That’s when you can start working on yourself. And then you’ll find the self-love will naturally follow, without being forced. Learn to accept yourself first and the love will come.