Social media is a powerful but dangerous tool. It’s the best modern day example of a double edged sword. On the one hand, it helps people to connect/reconnect with each other, to get inspired, and to build confidence. But sometimes it does the exact opposite and can trigger the worst feelings of self-doubt and comparison. While some people owe their success to social media, others are blaming it for all the negativity in their lives. Is it possible to find a happy medium?
Love it or hate it, social media is a big part of modern society and it shows no signs of stopping. Of course, you always have the option of not participating. But the thing about social media is that it’s what you make of it - literally. The one thing every platform has in common is that you can tailor make your feed to your liking. Many of us continue to follow people/pages for the wrong reasons, and that’s what leads to negative feelings.
It’s a toxic trait of human nature but we are compelled to compare ourselves to other people. That’s why it’s so hard to hit the unfollow button of that influencer whose life just seems a little bit too perfect. Your curiosity gets the best of you and that leads to comparison, jealousy, and a bunch of other unpleasantness. But once you pluck up the courage, you end up feeling so much better. It’s like unfollowing an ex.
Ask yourself what you want to get out of social media. Do you want to use it as a way of seeing what friends and family are up to? To get style, travel, and/or fitness inspiration? To look at memes? A combination of the three? Choose who/what you follow wisely. Remember, you’re not obligated to keep following that person from high school you were never really friends with or that popular influencer that everyone talks about. If ever a page starts making you feel bad it’s as simple as hitting the unfollow button, even if you do hesitate at first.
Also remember that your social media habits are yours and yours only. It’s easy to get in the habit of checking instagram any time you have a quiet moment (on work breaks, while commuting or waiting for something) because everyone else does, but there are so many other ways you can entertain yourself. Start carrying around a book with you, or download some game or news apps that you can open instead. The less you think about it, the less of an impact it will have on your life. And when you do open it up, you’ll only see things you want to see!